Mirror Mirror
Mirror mirror on the wall
Show me how to love it all
Our unconscious mind creates our reality and much like a mirror it reflects back to us our shadow we couldn’t otherwise see. It’s a gift that shows up when we are triggered by another person or event or in the results we are getting from actions we are taking. Our choice of clothes and how we take care of our physical appearance included! If we judge them bad or good then we are caught up in it making stories of what this means about us whether we are good or bad. Our judgements are reactions from our past conditioning which reacts telling us Wether this should make me Happy or Sad. It tells us whenever it means that I am Successful or Unsuccessful, Loved or Unloved, Accepted, Appreciated or UnValued Admired or Unworthy. When we are able to see them all as golden opportunities then we can work to unbind ourselves and we have the freedom of choice. We have the chance to take back our power from these stories and create something new for ourselves. If we dont then we end up just juggling and spinning plates trying to keep up our Persona our reputation, our meaning and we can never relax and be our True Selves. Without this we are just repeating the past by reacting to our conditioning. You might be thinking, ‘what conditioning? I’m making my choices by my own free will. These things just keep happening, it’s just the way the world works, or it’s my fate, or it’s destiny.’ Well what we know from neuroscience tells us this is not true. Scientists have proven that our mind makes our decisions before we are even conscious of having made one. Only once the decision is made does the brain fill in the rest, rationalizing why you made the decision but you think you chose it. Decisions are never logical they are emotional. So that’s why years in fashion industry I don’t do just regular styling or makeovers anymore. It doesn’t help my client get what she really wants and it falls way short of transformational. To try to work only on the surface level such as changing behaviors, or changing clothes, without working with the underlying emotions is like shaking a mirror trying to get it to show you something different.
So I challenge you to try this exercise. Look in the mirror and just observe how many stories come up. Then close your eyes and just be the witness to the emotions underlying the stories. Don’t judge, them dont buy into them. Just be the observer. If it helps you can imagine that observer part of you floats up six feet away from your physical body looking down from that vantage point.
